Why My Goal as a Therapist Is to Be Fired
Why My Goal as a Therapist Is to Be Fired
Most people don’t expect a therapist to say, “My goal is to work myself out of a job.” But that’s exactly how I practice.
I don’t want you in therapy forever. I don’t want you dependent on me. I don’t want you circling the same pain year after year, convinced that healing is something that happens “someday.” My goal—every single time we meet—is to help you move forward so clearly and confidently that one day you look at your life and realize you don’t need me anymore.
And honestly? That’s my favorite kind of firing.
Therapy Isn’t Meant to Be a Life Sentence
Trauma can make you feel like you’re stuck in a loop: the same reactions, the same patterns, the same internal battles. It’s exhausting. And when you’ve lived in survival mode long enough, it can feel normal.
But therapy isn’t supposed to keep you in that loop. It’s supposed to help you break it.
My approach is direct, compassionate, and deeply collaborative. I’m not here to nod along while you stay trapped in the same story. I’m here to help you understand what’s happening inside you, challenge the patterns that keep you stuck, and build the internal safety and skills you need to move forward.
Sometimes that means asking hard questions. Sometimes it means slowing down and tending to the parts of you that never got what they needed. Sometimes it means calling out the logic that trauma taught you—logic that once kept you alive but now keeps you small.
It always means doing the work together, with honesty and compassion.
Direct Doesn’t Mean Harsh. Compassion Doesn’t Mean Soft.
People often assume you can be either direct or compassionate—not both. But trauma work requires both.
Directness cuts through avoidance, shame, and old stories that no longer serve you. Compassion makes the truth bearable. Together, they create a space where you can be fully human: messy, brave, scared, hopeful, and capable of change.
I won’t sugarcoat things that are hurting you. I also won’t push you faster than your nervous system can handle. We move at the pace that’s right for you—but we do move.
Healing Means You Outgrow Me
When therapy is working, you start to:
• Trust yourself more than you trust my voice
• Catch your patterns before they take over
• Respond instead of react
• Feel grounded in your body instead of hijacked by it
• Make choices from clarity instead of fear
• Build a life that feels like yours again
And eventually, you realize you don’t need weekly sessions anymore. You’re living. You’re choosing. You’re steering your own ship.
That’s the moment I celebrate.
Not because I want you gone, but because you’ve reclaimed something that trauma tried to take from you: your agency.
If You Fire Me, It Means You’re Free
My job isn’t to keep you in therapy. My job is to help you build a life where you don’t need therapy to function.
If one day you “fire” me because you’re grounded, confident, and moving forward—good. That means the work worked.
And if you ever need support again, you’ll know exactly how to find your way back.